Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Relationships Deciphered

The purpose of this blog is to bring some clarity to the enigmatic nature of relationships through the in-depth examination of common relational impasses with the goal of increasing insight into our behavior and thought processes*.

In addition, this blog will discuss relevant topics in the field of psychotherapy in an attempt to educate and reduce stigma around mental health and psychotherapy in general.

*This blog is NOT focused solely on romantic relationships.

Rational vs. Irrational Beliefs

 Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy ( REBT ) teaches individuals how to think rationally and prevent their thinking from becoming crippling. 

Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) teaches individuals how to think rationally and prevent their thinking from becoming crippling. 

I've learned that we are constantly responding to our environment based on our interpretation of events as they happen. When someone thinks rationally they are able to objectively analyze situations and remain optimistic about a given outcome. Individuals that tend to think irrationally aren't able to supply themselves with realistic solutions and often drift towards behaving in a way that is unhelpful and less likely to move them towards their goal.

Here's an example: 

  • Event: I made a mistake during my presentation
  • Rational Thinker: Lots of  people make mistakes. I doubt anyone even noticed, it didn't take away from the overall message, and I'll do better next time.
  • Irrational Thinker: I am such an idiot! People probably think I am incompetent and I'll never be asked to present again.

Rational thinking allows for a restoration of one's perception of self as positive. Irrational thinking causes an individual to focus on flaws making their evaluation of self more negative than it needs to be. I assist clients with improving their ability to think rationally by teaching them to challenge irrational beliefs, essentially beating up their inner-bully.

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